Phone sex is so 1990s, right?
After all, we’ve discovered sexting now.
But sexting isn’t hands-free and there’s something SUPER HOT about talking dirty.
Phone sex is a great way to indulge your wild side, and it’s a way to express yourself and live out fantasies that you’re not quite ready to explore IRL. It’s also great for anyone in an LDR who wants to keep that spark alive.
Like everything, talking dirty takes a bit of practice. So, now’s the perfect time to learn a few tips so that it comes naturally, and so do you! 😉
Learn The Lingo
If you blush when saying the word wet or the idea of asking someone to thrust deeper or harder makes you dissolve into giggles, you need to give yourself a few lessons.
If you’re not sure where to start, do some research. Listen to audio erotica, read a few erotic short stories, or watch some porn. You’ll soon pick up the lingo.
Once you know what words to use, you need to get comfortable saying them out loud. When you’ve got this wrapped you’re ready to phone-bone.
Foreplay First
If you want to ease your partner gently into the idea of phone sex and give yourself a little wiggle room to get over the awkward feels, start with a little foreplay. It’s the best way to test-run your newly-learned vocab.
Next time you end a phone call, say something like “I want to put my mouth all over you.” or “I can taste you on my tongue.” then hang up.
We can guarantee that your phone will ring a few seconds later… whether you answer is up to you!
Go Slow
There’s a reason phone sex operators get paid more if they keep callers on the line for longer. And it’s not just all about money.
The secret to toe-tingling phone sex is to take it easy and build up to a climax. Essentially, you’re telling a story, and every good story has a beginning, middle and end.
Simply saying, “I’m wearing that sexy black thing you love and playing with my clit.” might get them excited, but there’s no longevity in it.
You need to draw it out. Be a tease.
Ask them if they can guess what you’re wearing. Describe how you’re running your hands down your body and tell them how you’re touching yourself. What are you thinking about?
Build up the suspense like a slow-burning fire and then open the orgasm floodgates.
Double The Fun
Phone sex isn’t just a one-way street, it can be just as good for you too. In fact, listening to you get turned on and climax can push the other person over the edge. Sometimes you don’t even need to say much, just your moans of pleasure are enough.
Of course, you can blow their mind on the phone in the grocery store but if they know you’re really into it too, it's extra intense.
So, grab your favorite vibrator and the lube you love, and get comfy. You can even dress the part, especially if you’ve got a kinky outfit that makes you feel incredible.
The more into it you are, the better the result for you both. You’ll also find it easier to talk dirty if you’re feeling it.
Recall Past Passions
If thinking up sexy scenarios leaves you feeling high and dry, draw on your past experiences for inspiration. Of course, it doesn’t strictly have to be your real past. You can relive a sexy scene you saw in a movie or read in a book, just make it your own.
This takes the pressure off a bit, and it lets you explore your fantasies too.
Alternatively, you can play remember when with your partner and remind them in graphic detail of a sexual encounter that you shared.
Live Out Your Fantasy – Or Theirs
If you want to fulfil your or your partner’s fantasies but don’t want to actually live them out, phone sex is the perfect way to fantasize together.
Find out what your partner's fantasy is and create a scenario that you bring to life. You may need a few sex tips if they’re into something you haven’t tried before, so don’t forget to do your research first. You want the experience to be as realistic as possible.
Perhaps they want to try anal, and you love the idea but are still a little nervous? Talk them through an anal fantasy—just be sure to include a hint to use lots of lube. Or perhaps you’ve always wanted a threesome, but don’t want anyone else involved in your relationship. Bring the ménage à trois to life on the phone so you can experience it without any strings attached.
Embrace Your Persona
Phone sex pros create a sexy persona that they know their customers will love, and you can do the same. This can help if you’re a bit shy, are usually quite reserved, or want to live out a wild fantasy but remove your real self from it just a bit.
You can change the pitch of your voice, pretend that you’re somewhere else, or that you’re someone else. Be seductive, sultry, submissive, or dominant.
Do whatever works for you and helps you to shed your inhibitions.
Get Graphic
Being explicit is part of great phone sex. You need to really go deep and say exactly what’s on your mind. But if words don’t come easy and you’re more of a visual partner, your phone has something else you can use. A camera.
Fancy a bit of FaceTime masturbation? Prefer a WhatsApp video call where you show your partner exactly what you want to do with your fingers? Or does the idea of swapping some sexy snaps to set the mood and get your blood pumping?
You do you and talk dirty how you want to. Actions sometimes speak louder than words after all…
Phone Sex FTW
Phone sex is an excellent way to add extra sizzle to your sex life. You can connect with your partner in new ways, explore both of your deepest desires and experiment in ways you may have dreamt of, but been too shy to try.
What are you waiting for? Get dialing!
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